Went thru a seriously rough time, Need Advice...

[pete0]

Im Ok for now...

Went thru semi-homelessness thru the holidays & then some...


- How do u get over resenting ppl who fuk u over ?

- How do u get over personal regrets in life ?

- How do u get around this age of toxic feminism ?

- How do u find ur purpose in life ? + How does one actually* go about being content in life ?

- How hard is it for humans on this spherical rock to JUST get along with each other ? Hello ??
If I say what I feel, I might be getting fuked over, If I DONT say what i feel, then I maybe fuking myself over ??


I dont understand ...

 

[pete0]

& heres the big one.

- How does one get over major permanent physical injuries ?

 

[flyingillini]

I am sorry you are having a tough time. I do not get involved too deeply with anyone on any level and I do not let anyone get close enough to know anything about me. I also don't put myself in a position to get screwed over. I have found that most humans are not good people and you can't really trust anyone. I hope you get yourself situated and find peace.
God Bless

 

[Wagerallsports]

Pete, just know that you are not alone and we all have had bad experiences, and question the meaning of things in our lives

One thing I can tell you is that time does heal

As for the things you say or don't say, or actions you carry out, don't let that bother you so much because that's the case for all of us as it's impossible to make everyone happy no matter what you do, especially in this crazy world today

If it's not too personal what type of physical injuries do you have?

 

[chuckythegoat2]

Pete, you're all over the place. Wishing you the best.

Start with Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Try to build yourself up from the ground up. As much as possible, become self-reliant.

 

[BMR Genie]

Pete, I am sorry to hear about your struggles rn, just try to be strong! All the advice above is good. Just take one step at a time.

We are here for you!

 

[JDS]

Hang in there Pete, I don’t have any real special advice for you right now, sometimes life just sucks been there done that. Things will get better & you will figure it out naturally on your own.

 

[samsncharge99]

Pete, text me, come over to my house, let's drink and watch some games


side note....Pete lives like 20-30 minutes away from me

 

[BMR Genie]

Pete, text me, come over to my house, let's drink and watch some games


side note....Pete lives like 20-30 minutes away from me

You're a great person, Sam!

 

[JDS]

You're a great person, Sam!

Amen

 

[flyingillini]

Christ is always there for you, let me know if you want prayer.

 

[RRsilver]

Hoping for the best outcome for you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers

 

[carolinakid]

Pete we are here for you, and prays for everything working out for you

 

[fishhead]

Pete, text me, come over to my house, let's drink and watch some games


side note....Pete lives like 20-30 minutes away from me

NICE GESTURE

GL PETE

 

[djefferis]

It’s tough - and sometimes the answers are simple, but accepting and implementing them is what’s hard.

- You get over people who have screwed you over by simply forgiving their actions and then cutting them out of your life. Holding resentment will only hold you back. If they don’t realize their actions and apologize on their own - just forgive/forget and move on from them.

- Much the same - you get passed your regrets by forgiving yourself and forgetting about them. Apologize to those you wronged and let them determine if they remain part of your life / if they can’t move on - do it for them.

- Same way as people have gotten around toxic masculinity for centuries - don’t follow it and understand not everyone’s ideology is correct - but also that you will never change it. Live your own life and surround yourself with people whose ideology is compatible with yours. You can have differing points of view/opinions - but when it becomes toxic in your opinion - avoid it - no matter what the ideology is.

- You find your purpose in life by simply accepting many things are beyond your control - and seeking only to control the controllable (yourself). You can’t change others - but you can control who you surround yourself with. Yiu can’t control others attitudes - but you can yours. Seek out positivity and try to be positive in your own thinking as it attracts similar personalities.

As to dealing with permanent and severe injury - I’ll leave it with this. Around 7 years ago - I stepped away from alot of things to deal with someone faced with a terminal disease. During the course of their treatment - I met a lot of people dealing with similar, their families and the staff. One thing that absolutely took me by surprise was simply the level of positivity from everyone.

I walked in expecting the gloomiest and most fucking depressing place imaginable. Instead - I heard people laughing, joking and encouraging each other to embrace the day and the new challenges it brought - while supporting each other in their journey. You had people from all different stages in life, backgrounds and races coming to a place seeking to preserve/prolong their life. They all knew there would be an end - and a lot of them dealing with severe physical pain - but they tended to do what they could to not let it show - and when they did they knew the people around them understood what they were dealing with and had all dealt with the same. Seeing this seemed to help them realizing complaining/venting was only a temporary relief - maintaining a positive attitude and seeking to help others was the path to happiness.

Just when you think your life sucks - and it very well may - when you seek to help others out you will find out there is always someone who has it worse. You say your dealing wit my temporary homelessness - there are plenty of people dealing with permanent. You sit in a waiting room talking with the family of someone with a terminal disease - and then an 80 year old widow with the same disease enters - they have no one anymore - no family and no partner and you think - Christ - maybe it’s not so bad - this poor person has absolutely no one. And you know what they want to talk about ? They want to tell you about the 8 year old freaking kid they met at their appointment last week and how they can’t stop thinking about them and what they could do to help them.

This 80 year old person can’t help but think of an 8 year old and how scared they must be of dying. They have lived a life worth living - not a perfect one - but a life lived nonetheless. And all they can focus on is helping some strangers kid who may not get the same chances they had - and what they can do to bring a little positivity into that persons life.

Moral is simply - focus on being a greater force for good and learn to move passed the bad. Don’t let it run your life or you will never escape the rut of depression. Life is what YOU make it - there will always be challenges and it comes down to how you respond to them. When you allow them to bring you down - they will. When you respond with positivity and embrace overcoming them - you will eventually. The journey may be difficult - but the alternative of just stopping and staying in one place is worse. Live, learn and enjoy - seek happiness in whatever form you can and help others where you can - in turn the world will respond.

 

[BMR Genie]

It’s tough - and sometimes the answers are simple, but accepting and implementing them is what’s hard.

- You get over people who have screwed you over by simply forgiving their actions and then cutting them out of your life. Holding resentment will only hold you back. If they don’t realize their actions and apologize on their own - just forgive/forget and move on from them.

- Much the same - you get passed your regrets by forgiving yourself and forgetting about them. Apologize to those you wronged and let them determine if they remain part of your life / if they can’t move on - do it for them.

- Same way as people have gotten around toxic masculinity for centuries - don’t follow it and understand not everyone’s ideology is correct - but also that you will never change it. Live your own life and surround yourself with people whose ideology is compatible with yours. You can have differing points of view/opinions - but when it becomes toxic in your opinion - avoid it - no matter what the ideology is.

- You find your purpose in life by simply accepting many things are beyond your control - and seeking only to control the controllable (yourself). You can’t change others - but you can control who you surround yourself with. Yiu can’t control others attitudes - but you can yours. Seek out positivity and try to be positive in your own thinking as it attracts similar personalities.

As to dealing with permanent and severe injury - I’ll leave it with this. Around 7 years ago - I stepped away from alot of things to deal with someone faced with a terminal disease. During the course of their treatment - I met a lot of people dealing with similar, their families and the staff. One thing that absolutely took me by surprise was simply the level of positivity from everyone.

I walked in expecting the gloomiest and most fucking depressing place imaginable. Instead - I heard people laughing, joking and encouraging each other to embrace the day and the new challenges it brought - while supporting each other in their journey. You had people from all different stages in life, backgrounds and races coming to a place seeking to preserve/prolong their life. They all knew there would be an end - and a lot of them dealing with severe physical pain - but they tended to do what they could to not let it show - and when they did they knew the people around them understood what they were dealing with and had all dealt with the same. Seeing this seemed to help them realizing complaining/venting was only a temporary relief - maintaining a positive attitude and seeking to help others was the path to happiness.

Just when you think your life sucks - and it very well may - when you seek to help others out you will find out there is always someone who has it worse. You say your dealing wit my temporary homelessness - there are plenty of people dealing with permanent. You sit in a waiting room talking with the family of someone with a terminal disease - and then an 80 year old widow with the same disease enters - they have no one anymore - no family and no partner and you think - Christ - maybe it’s not so bad - this poor person has absolutely no one. And you know what they want to talk about ? They want to tell you about the 8 year old freaking kid they met at their appointment last week and how they can’t stop thinking about them and what they could do to help them.

This 80 year old person can’t help but think of an 8 year old and how scared they must be of dying. They have lived a life worth living - not a perfect one - but a life lived nonetheless. And all they can focus on is helping some strangers kid who may not get the same chances they had - and what they can do to bring a little positivity into that persons life.

Moral is simply - focus on being a greater force for good and learn to move passed the bad. Don’t let it run your life or you will never escape the rut of depression. Life is what YOU make it - there will always be challenges and it comes down to how you respond to them. When you allow them to bring you down - they will. When you respond with positivity and embrace overcoming them - you will eventually. The journey may be difficult - but the alternative of just stopping and staying in one place is worse. Live, learn and enjoy - seek happiness in whatever form you can and help others where you can - in turn the world will respond.

A very inspiring story you have here, DJ.

"Life is what YOU make it" - This is what my high school teacher told us before graduating.

 

[samsncharge99]

It’s tough - and sometimes the answers are simple, but accepting and implementing them is what’s hard.

- You get over people who have screwed you over by simply forgiving their actions and then cutting them out of your life. Holding resentment will only hold you back. If they don’t realize their actions and apologize on their own - just forgive/forget and move on from them.

- Much the same - you get passed your regrets by forgiving yourself and forgetting about them. Apologize to those you wronged and let them determine if they remain part of your life / if they can’t move on - do it for them.

- Same way as people have gotten around toxic masculinity for centuries - don’t follow it and understand not everyone’s ideology is correct - but also that you will never change it. Live your own life and surround yourself with people whose ideology is compatible with yours. You can have differing points of view/opinions - but when it becomes toxic in your opinion - avoid it - no matter what the ideology is.

- You find your purpose in life by simply accepting many things are beyond your control - and seeking only to control the controllable (yourself). You can’t change others - but you can control who you surround yourself with. Yiu can’t control others attitudes - but you can yours. Seek out positivity and try to be positive in your own thinking as it attracts similar personalities.

As to dealing with permanent and severe injury - I’ll leave it with this. Around 7 years ago - I stepped away from alot of things to deal with someone faced with a terminal disease. During the course of their treatment - I met a lot of people dealing with similar, their families and the staff. One thing that absolutely took me by surprise was simply the level of positivity from everyone.

I walked in expecting the gloomiest and most fucking depressing place imaginable. Instead - I heard people laughing, joking and encouraging each other to embrace the day and the new challenges it brought - while supporting each other in their journey. You had people from all different stages in life, backgrounds and races coming to a place seeking to preserve/prolong their life. They all knew there would be an end - and a lot of them dealing with severe physical pain - but they tended to do what they could to not let it show - and when they did they knew the people around them understood what they were dealing with and had all dealt with the same. Seeing this seemed to help them realizing complaining/venting was only a temporary relief - maintaining a positive attitude and seeking to help others was the path to happiness.

Just when you think your life sucks - and it very well may - when you seek to help others out you will find out there is always someone who has it worse. You say your dealing wit my temporary homelessness - there are plenty of people dealing with permanent. You sit in a waiting room talking with the family of someone with a terminal disease - and then an 80 year old widow with the same disease enters - they have no one anymore - no family and no partner and you think - Christ - maybe it’s not so bad - this poor person has absolutely no one. And you know what they want to talk about ? They want to tell you about the 8 year old freaking kid they met at their appointment last week and how they can’t stop thinking about them and what they could do to help them.

This 80 year old person can’t help but think of an 8 year old and how scared they must be of dying. They have lived a life worth living - not a perfect one - but a life lived nonetheless. And all they can focus on is helping some strangers kid who may not get the same chances they had - and what they can do to bring a little positivity into that persons life.

Moral is simply - focus on being a greater force for good and learn to move passed the bad. Don’t let it run your life or you will never escape the rut of depression. Life is what YOU make it - there will always be challenges and it comes down to how you respond to them. When you allow them to bring you down - they will. When you respond with positivity and embrace overcoming them - you will eventually. The journey may be difficult - but the alternative of just stopping and staying in one place is worse. Live, learn and enjoy - seek happiness in whatever form you can and help others where you can - in turn the world will respond.

100% not a JJ post here

 

[BMR Genie]

100% not a JJ post here

Yeah, I know you still had doubts when DJ was mentioned on the Lobby show yesterday, but this guy is full of great insight either with life or with sports.

 

[jjgold]

Petey a few things
Go to Church
TRUST NO ONE
GET RID OF FRIENDS
Start fresh and you will heal

Illini right never put yourself in position to get screwed

 

[chuckythegoat2]

Hey, Pete. You think you had a tough week?

I just got out of the can.