Your thinking is wrong. Convoluted too.
You're a non-religious person telling religious people what they believe. Interesting.
Your idea about religious people is wrong.
Christianity is the only religion where people are equal in the eyes of God.
Religious jews believe they are the chosen people and all others are sub human. They call us Goyim.
Religious Muslims believe Jesus is burning in Hell and the Virgin Mary is promiscuous.
Clearly, these people are quite insane and very stupid as well.
So when you say Church people what you're really referring to are Christians.
As a Christian, I have absolutely no obligation whatsoever to live contrary to my thoughts and feelings as long as they don't violate my religion. I am free to like or dislike whoever I please.